8 Tips For How to Travel With Your Spouse or Partner

If you hate traveling with your spouse, then you’re probably doing something wrong.  Traveling is supposed to be fun and adventurous, and not one person dragging their feet because of a trip he/she doesn’t want to go on.  Marriage and relationships are about compromise.  We all should know this, but sometimes we forget.  Without compromise though, there’s failure to bring joy to a relationship that then becomes one-sided.  My husband and I have been traveling together since 2011 and some tips we’ve learned from our own trips and from friends and family would be:

  1. Don’t guilt your partner into doing a trip just because there’s an ‘opportunity’.  Let’s just say maternity leave is not meant to be an ‘opportunity’ for travel.
  2. Pay for the trip yourself.  Who can get angry at their spouse for an all expense paid trip?  It’s free for them so obviously there will be less complaining.
  3. Agree on where to go.  My husband has dragged his feet a few times on some of our trips, and I’m learning to include him in the planning process.  Most of the time he likes the activities that I pick, but there have been a few moments when he’s expressed disapproval.
  4. Make the travel days as painless as possible.  Book direct flights and avoid layovers as much as possible.  Also, book your accommodations to places that are walking distance so you don’t have to drive.  The point is to make travel days as painless as possible to get your spouse excited for the next trip.
  5.  Pick a destination that includes activities for the both of you.  My husband and I love being together 24/7.  We are peas in a pod.  However, I realize other couples aren’t like this so I suggest picking a destination that incorporates activities for alone time.  If someone loves shopping and the other surfing, then maybe Waikiki is a good spot to visit?
  6. Visit friends or family.  Another way to not be together 24/7 is to visit friends or family.
  7. Go to a destination you know will make your spouse happy.  Just take one-for-the-team and compromise.  You know the cliche saying, “It’s always better to give than to receive” and it’s true.  I find so much more joy making my husband happy than seeing him grumpy.  My husband also feels the same way.  He’s done a lot of things for me because he knows it’ll make me happy. “Happy wife is a happy life.”
  8. Don’t put your travels on credit.  Save, plan, and make sure you can afford your trips.  Otherwise, traveling becomes a contentious issue with debt stressing the relationship making the next trip hard to look forward to.  It’s just not worth it.

Places to Visit in California


There are so many great places to visit in California.  Below is our list we recommend you visit, and the other a list of places we have yet to explore.  California is definitely a vast state with lots of things to do and sites to see.  You can visit the state in multiple trips by first seeing the north or south separately, or with a road trip.  I would recommend a road trip and start from San Diego working your way up along the coast to San Francisco or even to Napa, this way you see a huge chunk of California on your fist visit.  Otherwise, seeing the state in segments is probably a good idea.  Hope this sparks ideas for a trip to California!

Places we recommend you visit:

  1. San Francisco
    1. Golden Gate Bridge
    2. Lombard Street
    3. California Academy of Science
    4. Fisherman’s wharf
    5. De Young Museum
    6. Painted Ladies
    7. Golden Gate Park
    8. Cal Academy of Science
  2. Disneyland
  3. Universal Studios
  4. San Diego
  5. Napa / Calistoga
  6. Yosemite National Park
  7. Sequoia National Park
  8. Santa Barbara
  9. Monterey / Pacific Grove
  10. Carmel
  11. Big Sur
  12. Lake Tahoe
  13. Muir Woods
  14. Big Basin
  15. Berkeley
  16. Santa Cruz / Capitola
  17. Point Reyes
  18. Solvang

Places we have yet to visit, but want to go to someday:

  1. Alcatraz
  2. Palm Springs
  3. Channel Islands National Park
  4. Catalina Islands
  5. Death Valley
  6. Joshua Tree National Park
  7. Twin Peaks in San Francisco
  8. Lassen Volcano National Park
  9. Avenue of the Giants to drive thru a Redwood Tree
  10. Safari West in Santa Rosa
  11. Disney Concert Hall
  12. Griffith Park
  13. Hearst Castle

To A New Year of Travel Adventures!

I was already a week early to ring in the new year, and now that it’s officially here, I’m so ecstatic!  2018 had some ups but definitely a lot more downs, which is why I’m ready to say goodbye and hello to the new year.  Good things are in store for us, and we are looking forward to all the things we have planned.  Most especially, I’m looking forward to our trips!  Yes, we have 2 week long trips planned, and since we only get 2 weeks a year for vacation, one trip will be in May and the other in September.  It’s going to be a good year!

Does anyone else plan trips months in advance?  I love doing it although some of my co-workers are quite opposite.  For me, planning ahead gives me something to look forward to especially on rough days.  I guess in a way it’s like dangling a carrot on a stick.

Anyway, I hope you all start planning for your future travels, whether it be domestic or international.  I hope you invest in yourself and take the time to travel for the sake of your health and well-being.

Happy New Year!